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Marine Le Pen compare le mariage homosexuel à la «polygamie» [avec video] [France]

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La présidente du Front national, Marine Le Pen, a exprimé mardi son opposition au mariage homosexuel, estimant qu’on pouvait aussi se demander “pourquoi pas la polygamie!”

Parmi “les règles de notre société”, “le mariage s’effectue entre un homme et une femme”, a déclaré Mme Le Pen sur France Inter.

“Je ne pense pas qu’il soit positif de changer cette règle, parce que si on part de ce principe, on peut aller à la limite très loin dans la modification de notre civilisation”, a-t-elle jugé.

“Pourquoi pas l’autorisation de la polygamie!”, a-t-elle poursuivi. “Il existe des familles polygames, pourquoi est-ce que demain un certain nombre de groupes politico-religieux ne demanderaient pas que la polygamie, sous prétexte d’égalité des droits, soit inscrite dans le code civil français?”, a-t-elle ajouté. “Et bien, c’est une autre civilisation”, a-t-elle estimé.

Libération.fr, 14 juni 2011


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Male domination in Church “a question of power” [Switzerland]

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by Eveline Kobler

The insistence of the Roman Catholic Church that priests have to be male reflects the power of men and not Christian theology, says Swiss theologian Doris Strahm.

Strahm is co-author of a recent study into women in leadership roles in the Jewish, Christian and Islamic faiths.

We may all be equal before God, but the study by the Inter-religious Think-Tank shows that this is not the case in certain religious communities.
The study looks at three branches of Judaism, the Protestant and Roman Catholic churches and the Islamic community in Switzerland. In liberal Jewish communities and in the Protestant church, women can hold leading clerical roles.

swissinfo.ch: The study shows that many women work for the Catholic Church but they are not allowed to serve as priests. Why?

Doris Strahm: The Catholic Church justifies this on the grounds that Jesus only called men as his apostles and on Catholic tradition. But this is an untenable argument, as Jesus was a Jew and he did not found a church. The office of priest only goes back to the fifth century.
Even the papal Bible commission, when it debated this issue in 1976, came to the conclusion that the Bible could not be understood to exempt women from the office of priest.
Until the 1980s the ban on women’s ordination was justified by reference to the sacramental character of the office of priest: the priest in his priestly functions represented Christ, who was a man, and therefore the priest had to be male.

swissinfo.ch: What criteria still apply – apart from gender?

D.S.: There are no other special criteria apart from gender. The priests have the same theological training as women theologians.
The fact that the male sex is so important is, in my view, to do with the patriarchal nature of our culture and in particular of Christian theology, with its male images of God as father, lord, creator, judge and a redeemer who was a man.
The man was seen as the standard form of humankind and as the image of God and there was the idea that woman was subservient to man as a created being – these things helped consolidate the view that men are closer than women to God. The church leaders, who have the last word, seem to see it still in the same way. It’s simply a question of power.


swissinfo.ch: Do you think there is a chance that the Roman Catholic Church will move in the direction of equality?

D.S.: I don’t see this development coming from above, from the official Church. If anything does change, it will come from below. The local churches need the courage to go in new directions and to break through the centralised structures.

swissinfo.ch, 13 juni 2011

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Numbers tell a terrible story [United States / Australia]

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Dick Gross

After a five-year wait, the second report of the academic institution examining the allegations of sex abuse against US priests has just surfaced, giving a more nuanced view of Rome’s shame.

In 2004, the first report of John Jay College of Criminal Justice of the City University of New York was released, verifying some shocking allegations of child abuse in the American Catholic Church. Here was some seemingly independent research on the nature and extent of the complaints that changed the world’s perceptions of the abuse phenomenon and cover-up.

And, because the John Jay report was the first objective study, its numbers became holy writ. In short these were as follows: a total of 10,667 individuals had made allegations of abuse, 6700 accusations were upheld against 4392 priests in the US, about 4 per cent of all 109,694 priests who served between 1950 and 2002 – a heinous overrepresentation when compared with the general community.

Since then, victims’ groups have attacked the data saying that it relied upon the Church providing information. Moreover, victims’ groups complain that as the Church paid for the John Jay research, it cannot be trusted.  The site is a mine of information and provides different data.  Put simply, it is argued that if the figures were not reliant on Church reports, then the John Jay numbers could be multiplied by a factor of two.  In April of this year, the numbers of ”not implausibly” accused priests based upon Church provided data were 5948 priests and involved 15,736 victims.

Last month, the second report looked at the context in which the abuse arose. In short it showed that the abuse peaked from 1965 to 1985 and since that time has declined.  Indeed in recent times it has slowed to a trickle.  The suppression of allegation has ceased.  In short, the crisis is over . . . or is it?

Whatever the arguments over the data, this priestly sexual probing has had incalculable implication for all of those interested in the nature and consequences of belief.  I will address several issues:

Is this a theodicy issue undermining faith?

What does this tell us about godliness and goodness?

What do we make of the priests who are left?


The question that is still open to debate is the causal factors.  The second John Jay report argues that predictable factors were at play here.  The organisational factors include the overzealousness of bishops protecting the brand, the role of forgiveness and concern for the perpetrator over the victim by way of speedy reassignment to another parish.

The psychology of the offenders is interesting.  Offenders were not gay or even paedophiles.  Critics of Catholicism naturally assume that it is celibacy at fault here.

The logic is that sexual repression leads to weird outcomes.  But the report is a bit half-pregnant on this issue. It says offenders were a pack of sad bastards ”with little or no exposure to a curriculum of what is now understood as ‘human formation’; the training in self-understanding and the development of emotional and psychological competence for a life of celibate chastity”, which is a partial exoneration of celibacy.  However, they wouldn’t need the training if they weren’t celibate.  Is it the training for celibacy or celibacy per se that is the problem?  But then later the report argues that offenders had poor social bonds and negative views on sex, which would be produced by the very ideological milieu that defends celibacy and all those other crazy sexual and contraceptive ideas of Catholicism. I believe the report is yet another opportunity to converse on the evils of celibacy rather than a definitive repudiation.

And so people will want to ”move on”.  The crisis is under control.  Benedict has apologised.  It’s all good.

The Sydney Morning Herald, 13 juni 2011

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“Sex ist Vorläufer des Paradieses” [Deutschland]

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Von Stefan Beig

Die deutsch-kurdische Feministin und Buchautorin Seyran Ates fordert heute eine sexuelle Revolution im Islam

Seyran Ates meint, der Islam bewerte Sexualität ursprünglich positiv.

Wegen ihres Buches “Der Islam braucht eine sexuelle Revolution” gab es Morddrohungen.

“Wiener Zeitung”: Ihr Buch geht häufig auf die islamischen Länder ein. Betrifft das Thema des Buchs auch die Muslime in Europa?

Seyran Ates: Das Thema betrifft Muslime in der ganzen Welt. Es geht um eine sexuelle Revolution, wie sie Christentum und Judentum durch die 68er und die Frauenbewegung erlebt haben. Die heutige Gesellschaft ist unter anderem auf diesen Veränderungen aufgebaut.

Den Begriff “sexuelle Revolution” hat der Psychoanalytiker Wilhelm Reich (1897 bis 1957) geprägt. Zu ihm kamen Menschen, die nur geheiratet hatten, um Sexualität zu praktizieren. Das gibt es heute auch bei Muslimen, die sich schnell scheiden lassen.

Sie verstehen die “sexuelle Revolution” im Sinne Wilhelm Reichs?

Wie Reich geht es auch mir nicht nur um den Geschlechtsakt, sondern um ein selbstbestimmtes Leben. Die sexuelle Revolution ist eine politische Bewegung, die auch das betrifft, was Religion von Menschen verlangt. Wie Christen und Juden fragen sich heute Muslime: Was darf mir der Imam aufzwingen? Ist mein Leben mit meiner Religion vereinbar? Kann ich vorehelichen Geschlechtsverkehr haben oder Homosexualität praktizieren und dennoch gläubig sein? Das sollen die Muslime selbst entscheiden.

Außerehelicher Geschlechtsverkehr und gelebte Homosexualität sind auch in den anderen monotheistischen Religionen verboten.

Ich werde nicht müde, alle drei monotheistischen Religionen zu bemühen. Aber innerhalb der beiden anderen Religionen hat es eine progressive Bewegung gegeben. Die Menschen dort wollen ihre Religion zeitgemäß leben, ohne sich von ihr zu verabschieden.


Wie stehen Sie zur Polygamie?

Sie ist nicht zeitgemäß. Frauen müssen gleichbehandelt werden. Die Gleichwertigkeit vor Gott reicht nicht. Ich kann sie auch als Juristin nicht akzeptieren – wegen der Rechte der Ehefrauen und der Machtstellung des Mannes.

Wiener Zeitung, 11 juni 2011

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Buiten de deur scharrelen lijkt bij zebravinkjes genetisch bepaald [Duitsland]

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Door: Nadine Böke
Voor mannelijke dieren is het logisch dat ze met zo veel mogelijk vrouwtjes willen paren: zo krijgen ze meer nakomelingen. Maar wat schieten vrouwelijke dieren ermee op om, naast met hun vaste partner, ook met andere partners te rommelen?

Noorderlicht, 14 juni 2011

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’Rabbi used mystical threats to force girl to have sex’ [Israel]

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Netanya Rabbi David Ben-Haham Hafuta charged with forcing a 13-year-old girl into having sex with him by exploiting his authority. 

A 64-year-old community rabbi from Netanya was charged on Monday at the Petah Tikva District Court with forcing a 13-year-old girl into having sex with him by exploiting his authority and using “mystical threats” to intimidate her.

The defendant, named as Rabbi David Ben-Haham Hafuta, was arrested on May 30, and is charged with carrying out sexual acts on three occasions with the girl, after telling her that she had to “repair her sins” and that she would be “the mother of the messiah.”

“The defendant used sayings and threats which were apparently based on mystical foundations in order to intimidate and enchant the minor, and convince her to hold sexual relations with her,” said the charge sheet.

The girl was interviewed by a child investigator and found to be credible, state prosecutors said.

The Jerusalem Post, 14 juni 2011

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Jason Berry: Author and Expert on Catholic Sex Abuse Scandal in St. Louis Tuesday [United States]

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By Chad Garrison

Perhaps no other journalist in the world has devoted as much time or penned as many words covering the Catholic Church and its sex abuse scandals as Jason Berry.

The New Orleans’ journalist has written three books on the subject with his latest (released just last week) Render Unto Rome detailing how the church spends its fortunes and what amount of that money eventually makes its way to the victims of sexual abuse.

His 2004 book Vows of Silence (co-authored with Gerald Renner) chronicled the church’s cover-up of the sex abuse scandals and was later made into a movie. Before that, Berry’s 1992 book Lead Us Not Into Temptation, was one of the first works to report about the sexual abuse of children at the hands of Catholic priests.

Berry will be in St. Louis tomorrow (Tuesday) for a reading at the Schlafly Tap Room from 7 to 9:30 p.m. The reading is being hosted by The Faithful of Southern Illinois (FOSIL), Voice of the Faithful (VOTF) and the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests (SNAP). Books will be available for purchase and signing through Left Bank Books.

In an interview Sunday with the Toledo Blade, Berry — a practicing Catholic — states: “I am severely disappointed and still shocked by the incompetence and corruption in the government of the church. But I don’t want bishops, some of whom act like moral thugs, to drive me out of the place where I practice my faith. And I think a lot of Catholics feel that way.”

Daily RFT, 13 juni 2011

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